American Psychoanalyst Allen Wheelis wrote: “Of two equally true accounts of the same life, the one we choose will depend upon the consequences we desire, the future we want to create.”
In my last post, I mentioned I was getting my last biopsy. I am happy to announce that the results showed no cancer. So I’m done! At least that’s what I thought at first. One doctor still recommended I get this high dose specialized Chemo drug as a prophylaxis, in case my disease returns and affects my central nervous system. After talking it over with two additional oncologists, and finding out I have 7-12% chance of relapse and no appreciable preventive efficacy of this drug (less than 2% difference between taking the drug and not), I decided I will opt out of injecting more powerful toxins into my body.
The consequence I desire, of course, is to be healthy and have hair for my daughter’s wedding in December. While at first I thought wanting to have my own hair was vanity, my doctor reminded me that it’s actually a quality of life issue. I’ll go with that.
The future I want to create is a healthy one filled with the love of my family and friends and the joy of my grandchildren. It includes the continued success of my two companies, both of which are built with love and on the premise of helping people. Unfortunately, there are no guarantees that this disease will not come back, but the numbers seem to be on my side.
Life is a series of choices, isn’t it? I am at peace with my choice. Actually, come to think of it, I am at peace with all the big choices I made in life. How about you? Are your choices aligned with the consequences you desire, and the future you want to create? If you want to talk about it, I’m here to listen.
Much love
